You see them sitting across from you at the library, on the bus, or next to you in a class, but you don’t know how to ask them the question on your mind: “Do you want to go out with me?” How does one break the ice and ask that terrifying question? Because it is terrifying! You could be rejected, or maybe the date won’t be what you were expecting. Well, here are 3 sure-fire tools on how to ask someone out that will reduce the chances of you getting rejected.
- Give them a compliment
One of the best ways of opening someone up is by identifying something you like about them, and telling them. Look at their face, their clothes, the way they are sitting, anything! And if you are sincere when you tell them you like their shoes, they will be flattered! Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People said “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” So ask for their name, and repeat it. Remember the golden rule: treat other people as you would like to be treated. Receiving a compliment would sure be flattering for you, so it will probably be for them! Remember that they are just as nervous as you when it comes to asking someone out.
- Make them smile.
Whenever I was nervous about a date, it was because I was worried the date would be too serious, or that the person would find me boring, and go home, and tell their roommates that I was a bore, and had wasted their time! So I came up with this challenge for myself: See how many times you can make the person laugh by the end of the date. If by the end of the date I could make the person laugh once, then it was a success. The same applies to a first impression! Just relax, and see if you can crack a smile from them, because they will have a good lasting impression that the first time they met you, they left smiling.
- Plan a safe activity, keep it simple.
If you see someone at the library, and you think they are cute, maybe you don’t have a lot of time before they pack up their bag and leave. Or maybe you have known your friend for months, and have been trying to get the courage to leave the friend zone. Whatever it may be, keep it simple! No fancy candle lit dinners, or $18/person minigolf session! Plan something simple like asking them to dinner, and you will both be grateful. Because there is no pressure for them to act formal, and there will be no pressure on your wallet! You can even just ask them to go on a walk sometime, because honestly, if you just tell them it’s only to get to know them more, they will probably say yes!
Honestly, I know what you’re thinking: “these tools might have worked for you, but they can never work for me.” That may be true, but you will never know unless you try it out! You could just continue doing the same thing you’ve always been doing, and continue getting the same results. Or you could try doing something different, and possibly obtain different results.